Monday, 21 June 2021

The Special Days Are Today

 The rain stayed off most of yesterday and I met my sister and we popped into Marks & Spencer's to buy lunch for my Dad and we had a really nice few hours chatting and catching up over it. Dad had found an old bottle of really Armagnac brandy from 1931 which is his year of birth. One of his work colleagues had given it to him as a present years ago and he had put it away to open on a special birthday and forgotten about it. "We should have opened it on your 90th." my sister and I joked. "Oh well" he replied "We'll open it on my 100th, and if I don't make it, you can sell it and buy a house!" All joking apart, not quite a house but it is very valuable and another lesson learned not to put things away for best or special occasions as the special days are today.

It was one of the topics of conversation Tom and I had while we were away. It is so easy to always be planning for the future and missing "the now" . We are guilty of it, Tom often says "We'll do that when I retire."  It is nice to think about these things but I think every day I mustn't forget how much pleasure there is in now. You hear it all the time at the moment "I can't wait till this is all over." "I can't wait until next year when I can have a holiday abroad." My friend's husband died very suddenly aged only 58 a few years ago. He was a cheerful chap and the day before he died he visited the boat yard where they kept their little boat. His last Facebook entry on that day was a post saying. "It's a beautiful day here, the sort of day that makes you feel glad to be alive." While it is so poignant to see it, what a wonderful epitaph in another way. Tom and I have both said we are going to try and enjoy every day. I know it is harder for Tom driving round in the London traffic all day, but he says it could be much worse, most of the people he works with are really nice and 90% of the passengers are lovely. I am going to find time today sit down and make a few notes about ways to simplify our lives and enjoy it more. I try to do this sort of thing all the time and then somehow slip back into those days worrying about how I will get everything done I need to to. 

Eldest daughter and Scarlett came round yesterday and I wish I could simplify her life for her! We had a really nice family day though. A perfect day to finish off Tom's holiday and although he was up early today and left the house before 5am, he was definitely rested and refreshed after his break. I've just got to work out a way of keeping that for us!

Even though youngest son has been feeding the foxes, since we have been home the male fox has taken to standing looking in at us reproachfully all the time. Where have you been? I'm sure he is saying! Have a lovely day everyone what ever you are doing. xx

16 comments:

  1. There was a litre bottle of whisky on
    The Antiques Roadshow a couple of weeks
    ago, in a Dimple type bottled, unopened!
    Strange..Cos! The guy that brought it was
    quite elderly and 'red' faced..HeHe! Say
    no more..
    It was valued at between..£2,500 and £3,500..
    So it's worth giving it a Google..I've had
    a quick look...and your Dads bottle could
    be worth between £1,000 and £3,000...Depends
    on the make and size..Take a look..! :).
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    1. My goodness, that is really interesting. This is a big bottle in a case so I'm sure it would be worth a lot. I still think he should drink it though, he can't take it with him! Or maybe we should take it to Antiques Roadshow first!

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  2. I agree about not putting things off until whenever. For me I was shelving cuntries I wanted to visit until my retirement, but alas it was too late as although I had been diagnosed with MS a few years prior the symptoms didn't appear until I was 60.

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    1. I'm so sorry to hear this Joan. I really hope your health is on a reasonably even keel at the moment. Sometimes we just have to change our plans and adapt don't we. It is hard but you are right we shouldn't put off things we want to do. xx

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  3. Retirement does give you time to live in the here and now, most days are enjoyable, and if we don't fancy doing anything there is always tomorrow.

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    1. That does sound lovely! We can't help planning and thinking of retirement but I'm just scared of not enjoying now too but it is nice to plan.

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  4. We have also done the same as in making plans for "someday". Now we're here taking care of Mom and don't know if we'll ever be able to do those "someday" things. I do try to appreciate and enjoy every day though.
    That fox photo is so poignant. He is missing you and glad that his "people" are back home.
    Take care and I hope Tom has a good day today.
    Blessings,
    Betsy

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    1. I know exactly what you mean Betsy. Family commitments mean you can't just do your own thing but I remind myself how grateful I am I have my family which makes that easier to deal with. There's no point in having lots of time to do exciting things without the family I love and would they really seem that exciting if I could actually do them. Have a lovely day Betsy.

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  5. I have always done that. My mom used to tell me you will wish/dream your life away. I used to give her attitude back but now I realize her wisdom.
    HUGS,
    Kim

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    1. Me too Kim. My Mum used to say exactly the same thing to me. Life seems never ending when you are young and of course your Mum knew exactly what she was talking about and now we realise it!

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  6. A 1931 bottle of brandy, what a lovely gift. We haven't planned for the future at all and I do think it's best to enjoy every day and take things one day at a time. Lovely photo of the fox and I'm sure he did miss you.

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    1. The funny thing was he had put it away in a cupboard and forgotten all about it. I still think he should drink it but maybe over several weeks!

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  7. I love your fox photo. I agree that every day is special. I think as I have got older I do focus on the present and enjoy all the little things. Especially now no matter how busy the day I will drop most things to see friends and family.

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    1. Some of the things that have happened to me over the last few years have really made me realise this. I have also realised that possessions, apart from ones with sentimental value are meaningless. It is people that matter.

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  8. I do the same thing. I make up my mind to be present in each moment and enjoy my life. Next thing I know I've forgotten all about my resolution. But I do keep trying.
    I love that you can spend so much time with your sister. Both mine live 1500 miles away and I don't get to see them.

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    1. It is hard I know as I am a real planner but I try very hard too as I think it does lead to a happier life. Yes we are so lucky to be able to have that support, I find it hard to even imagine those distances you are from your sisters! We live in the south and even if we drove there and back to the very top of the UK we wouldn't cover that many miles!

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