Friday, 16 July 2021

Happily Plodding Or High Flying

 Scarlett was so full of her two days at school when she came yesterday. A few of her friends from nursery are starting with her so it has made her more confident. Typically of Scarlett she has entered into it all with such enthusiasm. "Hands up!" has become her favourite expression "Hand's up who wants tomatoes at lunch, hand's up who want's to go for a walk!" I had to join in of course and even Cassie was expected to hold up her paw before we went for a walk! Eldest daughter is so beautifully organised and has written out a date list of every day I will have to pick her up from school right through to next March, when her partner is being transferred to a new job so his shift patterns will change. I'm going to have a few dummy runs during the school holidays to get the timing just right. It has taken me back to when my children started school and even when I started school. It all seems so much more relaxed and easy going. I keep thinking how lucky Scarlett is but I can't help but have these nagging worries in the back of my mind. 

Even primary schools now have resident psychologists, I know a very nice family, who work so hard to give their children the best life yet both of the children are seeing a psychologist regularly for "low self esteem." The news loves to give us statistics all the time about how many percent of children now have mental health problems and how much up that is from previous years. If it all seems so much more happy and relaxed than in my days of starting school why has this happened? I was terribly shy at school, maybe today I would have been sent to a psychologist for having "low self esteem". Has the modern world really changed children so much or is it just experts are so quick to put labels on people now.

I have lots of old school photos in my collection, the top two are the 1950s to the two photos at the bottom from around 1910.

I look at all those little faces and wonder if life was really easier and less stressful or was it just a different kind of stress. We talk in our small group of old school friends all the time about it wondering why we all seemed so much happier as children than children today. In days before league tables, targets and constant testing. we just seemed to have fun, or are we just looking back at life in a rosy nostalgic way. I don't have the answers and probably I may be "overthinking" I'm sure an expert would tell me so. I've always been a bit of a happy plodder in life, never a high flyer and I think that was always my personality even in childhood. I'm just glad I was born in a time when that was acceptable to be. 

It's a lovely sunny day today and I am going with my sister to our caravan for the day and having a walk around the local area. We are only taking Cassie so at least she is nicely trimmed for our long walk and pub lunch. Have a lovely day everyone and I hope the sun shines for you. xx


  1. I think you're right in that experts are quick to put labels on people these days. When we were children, generally speaking mothers stayed at home and cooked and cleaned while father was the breadwinner. Life was tough for many but children played outside, got dirty and seemed happier. Life just isn't the same now. Enjoy your day at the caravan, it's lovely and sunny here.

  2. i do think modern education has gone a little to far in the this is how a child should be stakes , no oddbods or individuals seems to be the thought.

  3. The curriculum was different when I was at primary school. There was equal focus on core subjects and on the arts with weekly singing, country dancing, art, and drama alongside maths, English, science etc. There was no worry about grades or SATS and definitely no booster classes. We took the 11 plus without cramming and it was a more accurate level of the standard attained. It's heartbreaking to see young children clearly stressed out about their grades and the fact that they now formally test reception class children just horrifies me. Somewhere along the line the people who set the standards have forgotten the importance of play in a child's development. I'm not surprised that the system is creating mental health issues for so many. I'll get off my soapbox now!

  4. I agree with you wholeheartedly. I think life WAS easier for children then. Playing, schoolwork, chores at home. But lots of outdoor play. Now children are tested, competing for everything and sit on tablets in a pretend world. I worry about my grandchildren in this world.

  5. I hated school although the infants wasn't too bad. The teachers mainly treated us very unkindly. Secondary school was dreadful. I hope Scarlet will be happy at school. My granddaughter starts next year. She loves nursery.


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